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Different & the Same: Sticks and Stones

Different & the Same: Sticks and Stones

As parents and educators continue to navigate school closures due to COVID-19, we are excited to offer portions of our popular school-based program, Different and the Same on our website! We will release a video and activities every-other-week. Watch this space. 

Theme: Name-Calling/Hurting others as a reaction to being hurt 

Key concept: In "Sticks and Stones," the teasing and name-calling reflect feelings of fear, shame, anger, power, and meanness. Feelings, expressed, but not voiced, as Cat-a-lion learns his lesson, include regret, kindness, warmth, and friendship. 

Introductory Activity: Compliment Collection (optional)

Suggested materials: Paper and makers 

Ask your child/student to help generate a list of things people say about others that make them feel good. Remind them that it's not just how they look, but what they do that can generate compliments - not only playing well but being kind to someone, trying hard, or helping someone else accomplish something. How do compliments make them feel? How do unkind comments make them feel?

Play an informal game of catching each other using compliments. If someone uses one that's not on the list, add it to the list. 

Suggested Introductory Questions 

Have you ever heard the saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me"? 

  • What do you think it means? Is it a "true" saying?

What to look for in the video 

  • As you watch "Sticks and Stones," notice how Cat-a-lion feels about being called a name. See if he does what you predicted he would do - or if he does something else. 

Suggested Follow-Up Questions

How do you think Cat-a-lion felt when the kids called him a "mophead?"

  • What kinds of feelings did Cat-a-lion have while he was teasing Arthur?
  • How could Cat-a-lion have dealt with his feelings without hurting Arthur?

Have you ever felt the way Arthur did when Cat-a-lion called him names?

  • Would you have accepted Cat-a-lion's apology? Why or why not?
  • How do you think Arthur was feeling after the phone call?